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Blogger Looking for Love, 52 Blind Dates This Year

Julie Janus needs a Valentine's Day date—just like she needs a date every week this year in her quest to go on 52 blind dates in 2012.

Julie Janus is 27 and single.

She wants everyone to know it—and get her some dates.

Janus’ mission this year is to go on 52 blind dates—one each week.

“I'm sick of being single! I don't really think this is going to lead me anywhere, but it's a good start,” she wrote on her blog chronicling the project. “My counselor (back when I thought I could afford to have a counselor) once said to me, ‘If you wanted a new job, you would probably spend at least an hour a day looking at ads, filling out applications, and interviewing. If you are serious about wanting a relationship, you need to put in the same amount of effort.’”

So effort it is, the Richfield resident said with a deadpan tone. Janus spoke about the project openly and matter-of-factly. She constantly joked and laughed about it while still taking  it seriously. The gimmicky project is a reflection of her eclectic personality. Outgoing and sure of herself comes from her work in Inver Grove Heights with a theater company.

“It started as a joke,” Janus said recalling a day last November when she and her girlfriends were talking about a dude she was seeing who wasn’t working out. “I just said ‘Next year, I’m going on 52 dates.’ At some point it stopped being a joke.”

The ultimate goal, she said would be to meet someone who she is compatible with and develop a relationship.

“That very well might not happen, though, so I have some secondary goals. I am hoping to expand my understanding of what I'm looking for in a relationship by meeting people that I wouldn't normally consider as romantic possibilities,” she wrote in her blog. “I'm also looking forward to going to new coffee shops/restaurants/places in the cities that I wouldn't usually frequent.”

Her blog talks about each date, using aliases for the men she’s seeing as well as detailing some of her frustrations about the project.

One of the biggest frustrations, Janus admits, is finding men to go date.

“I’ve lived here for 4 1/2 years and all my friends have told me they have no single male friends to set me up with the entire time,” she admitted. “But I guess I didn’t really listen and thought when I started this project they’d come up with single male friends. It’s been a lot harder than I thought.”

The difficulty isn’t coming from a lack of effort, though, Julie said. She’s a member of a few dating websites and does her own amount of man searching.

“I’m not a passive person, it’s hard for me to sit back and be demure,” she said. “I’m not waiting for things to happen. People say when you stop looking for love you’ll find it but that’s hard to hear. I’m not a terribly social person and this is my way of looking for what I want.”

She said she continually hounds her friends to develop some single male friends, searches online each night and tries to keep bugging people.

Her project, though, isn’t an act of desperation. She openly talks about the project to anyone who asks—and discloses her plan to the men—who were just numbers or ideas until she actually started meeting them.

“It’s hard trying to not get emotionally attached to the men after the first date knowing there are many more blind dates to follow,” she said. “It’s weird to sit across from someone and think about how they’re not just a number in the project—they’re a real person.”

Her dating history has been relationships. As nontraditional as she may seem about this project she wants what most people want.

“I like relationships a lot,” she said. “I take relationships fairly seriously. I’m not the kind of person who just dates. I was hoping I’d meet someone and call this project off before it finishes.”

Without discrimination, Janus is accepting suitors and looking for dates. She can be reached through her blog.

Julie Janus February 16, 2012 at 05:47 PM
Ha, trust me, I wish I could have! Did you read my blog about it? I was at work when I was contacted and only had 30 minutes to prepare. If I had known that morning I was going to be on TV, I would have put in some effort!
Kelyn Rodrigues (@lagerblushblog) February 25, 2012 at 12:38 PM
A surprise TV appearance? I think that you should take a photo of you before every date so that we can see what you looked like on each one. At least you didnt get playdoh down you like i did on my first blogged date! http://thedatingmarathon.blogspot.com/2011_09_01_archive.html
Kelyn Rodrigues (@lagerblushblog) February 25, 2012 at 12:48 PM
Reading might help give you a few things to ponder over. But I bet you most of the people who read these self help books are still single or divorced! Looking for a formula for love is more desperate than going on a comical 52 first dates dare! & Take it from a tomboy, gender stereotyping your date might just be what puts them off you. Good luck to you Julie! "Why are you still Single? How to answer the question" http://thedatingmarathon.blogspot.com/p/my-relationship-history.html "Why looks shouldn't be as important as you think" http://thedatingmarathon.blogspot.com/2012/02/cupcake-flop-theory-yes-this-is-about.html
Sara Smith March 19, 2012 at 05:05 AM
Kelyn ... Uhm, yes, the people who read books about dating are indeed very likely to be single or divorced. The point to reading them would be to learn good dating and relationship skills in order to more successfully date and have good relationships. Why would married people read books about dating? Also, the five books listed above would give Julie way more than "a few things to ponder over." They could and probably would revolutionize her dating life and allow her to have a much better relationship or marriage than she would if she never read them.
Jack Action April 08, 2012 at 07:44 PM
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